I Need Your Prayers

[lilbinkey]

Hi All My Friends,

I just wanted to ask you for your prayers please. I am going thru a divorce after 15 yrs of marriage. I have 2 kids. We are going thru a very ruff time right know.

I would really appriciate all of your thoughts n prayers right know. I still love there dad but I cant live with a Alcohalic any more. I am kinda emabarrested to ask you for this. Im not used to asking people for anything.. I just feel very close to alot of you on here.. God Bless.

Binkey AKA Cindy

[Marion]

You got it Binkey!

Any chance for marriage counseling?

Marion

[Gizmo]

I'm very sorry to hear that you are going through this, especially when children are involved.

My younger brother went throught this a few years ago after being married 22 years, and he is just starting to get whole again.

I really feel your pain, and I will keep you in my prayers and hope things get better soon for you.

God Bless!

[MaggieMae]

This is such a hard time for you and your children - I'm not much of a prayer either, but you have my concern and caring. Both of my children have gone through divorces and they have been awful for them and the little ones.

You have such a generous and kind heart - you will come through this and all of us really care!

MaggieMae aka Julie

[crops2dawn]

Binks!!! aka Cindy... You will get through this, You are strong and God only gives you what He knows you can handle, I truely believe in this, I know you have a lot on your plate right now, but always remember we are here for you if you just need to chat! I know you still love him and you always will because he's the father of your children. But just think to yourself it's better for the kids sake. I lived with an alcholic father, I know first hand what that does to a child. I'm not sure how old your children are but they will remember things. My prayers are with tonight my friend!

[eye]

Hi All My Friends,

I just wanted to ask you for your prayers please. I am going thru a divorce after 15 yrs of marriage. I have 2 kids. We are going thru a very ruff time right know.

I would really appriciate all of your thoughts n prayers right know. I still love there dad but I cant live with a Alcohalic any more. I am kinda emabarrested to ask you for this. Im not used to asking people for anything.. I just feel very close to alot of you on here.. God Bless.

Binkey AKA Cindy

I wished I could make you feel better. I have been through a divorce and the pain is hard when you love the person.I was stranded 3000 miles away from anyone I knew with a 15 month old baby. I know your ache.It feels like you are in mourning.It is hard and the heart aches and it is so empty and lonely.But the only thing I can say is God gave us time and time is our only healer plus our prayers.I stayed single for 8 years until I met my next husband.He proposed 3 times before I said yes and we were blessed with 3 more little ones late in life. I still have a hard time to trust but he accepts me this way. Your time will heal you and you will be a survivor.Us women have that built right into us.So you take care and anytime you want to talk send me a messae and I will give you my e-mail address. You are not alone in this.Someday you can put all this behind you and become a stronger person and the hurt will not hurt as much.
EYE

[Bobby Bear]

Binkey,
Very sorry to hear that,I'm sure I speak for all of us here.We all wish you the very best and our thoughts will be with you.
All the best,

Bobby Bear

[Granny]

Oh, Binkey, I'm so sorry. I would not wish that on my worse enemy. Never been divorce, but know plenty of dear souls that have. I will keep you in my prayers, that you will have wisdom and discernment in making the right desicions, and the strengh to carry them through.

Granny

[Kazr]

Dear Binkey
I am very saddened to hear you have go through this,especially when little ones are involved, please know you are in my thoughts, I hope you have close friends & family to guide you through the hard times & hope they can give you big hugs when you need them,take each day as it comes & you will get there.
hugs for you xxxxxxx Karyn.

[jazzieal]

I'm so sorry to hear this.. I have been there done that so I know almost what you are going thru..mine was an alcholic and a beater..I lived in it as long as I could and one night he slept with a loaded rifle and I had a loaded pistol and I knew it was time to go..I still loved him too even after all that..it will take time but one day you will wake up and it will be ok..I will sure keep you and your children in my prayers and God will work things out if you just have faith..I know you are a survivor!!!! If you need someone to talk too Im here..always glad to listen and help if I can
Linda

[sacannon]

So sorry to here this Binky. I have not gone through this my self, but both of my sisters have a couple of times each. There is nothing to be embarressed about. It will take time but you will get through it. We may not be there in person, but everyone at SBM is here for you when ever you need to unload.
Sue

[srussell]

Wishing you anything you might need, escpecially good thoughts and prayers... :)

[mh51]

"I know your ache.It feels like you are in mourning.It is hard and the heart aches and it is so empty and lonely.But the only thing I can say is God gave us time and time is our only healer plus our prayers." ~

EYE put it so well and YES,you'll certainly be in my thoughts and prayers.

YOU WILL COME THROUGH THIS. You won't be able to see this at the moment, but take my word for it, you will and possibly be a stronger person for the experience.
Take care & God Bless.

[Linda]

Binkey, I'm so sorry. I know it's a difficult time for you. You have many friends here and you can always ask for anything you need to from us without being embarrassed. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Remember that you are not alone. Linda

[Ladybug]

Binkey,

I know what a terrible time this is for you and I wanted to let you know that you and your children are in my thoughts as you go through this trying time. You have many friends here who will be there for you so please don't hesitate when you need comforting.

Hugz,
Ladybug

[juliehclark]

i will most certainly pray. consider it done. God is faithful. I pray you seek
His will during this time.

strength and wisdom to you.

[*eng*]

(((Hugs)))) Binkey, thinking of you. My parents divorced when I was 8 and it affected me deeply. I spent the next 12 years trying to get them back together. I know now it wouldn't have worked. Take care of yourself and thinking of you x

[Claree]

Hi Binkey,
I'm really sorry to hear you and the kids are going through this, I went through something the same 3 years back, I have 4 kids and the eldest one ended up living with his dad, it's hard on everyone involved at a time like this,and you have to kind of be the strong one for the kids no doubt,.
I know I'm a newbi here but I just want you to know I'm thinking of you through your hard times,and I know it's not going to make a whole lot of difference, but things do get better in time.
Try and stay strong and don't be afraid to ask for help, even if it's just posting or calling a friend to have a rant, thats the best advice anyone gave me.
Take care and good luck
Clareexx

[kaboo1]

Binkey,
You need to be strong I know you must have contemplated this long and hard.
You can not change your husband unless he wants to change. AA is a great organization which offers a vast amount of support for people who want to stop drinking., here is the web site if you do not already have it. http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/en_information_aa.cfm.

Also on the web site is the big book for members to read. I have found the book very enlightening and helped me understand some of the thinking associated with this addiction.

A group for you that might help is al-anon though you do need to find the right group. Many times the spouses have been physically abused and if you have not you will feel that you do not belong. This is a good place to talk to others that are going through the same things you are. The offer help, support and friendship when you need it most.
Just remember that no mater what is said you did not force him to drink it was his own choice.

Here is the web address for al-anon if you are intreses you can fing a meeting place. http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ALONON
Good luck and stay strong!

Lynn

[Marion]

I am always amazed about what a wonderful caring group we have here!

Marion

[cntrywoman72]

Binkey,

Ill keep you and your children in my prayers and thoughts. May God give you the strength and courage so you and your children are comforted.

Becca

[lilbinkey]

I want to thank all of you for all of your thoughts n prayers. I just love this group. Marion is so right this is such a thoughtful & caring group.. Thanks Again.
I am going to get me & my kids into the Alanon & AlaTeen. I Love you all!!

I will keep u all updated...

XOXOOXOXOX,
Cindy/Binkey

[MA3]

Cindy, If I could I would be there to give you a ton of (((HUGS))) and a shoulder to lean on...My heart breaks for you and your Children, my DD is going through this very same situation, :( I can never know your pain, but I do know your Heart, Try and Be Strong,... you are so courageous to want a better life....Just remember with every step you take our Good Lord is taking these steps with you, He may not answer you in a way you think is better for you and your family, But He will answer your Prayers in the way that is best....So I will send you Strength,Love and Understanding on the Wings of my Angel...and I will Pray as I do everynight For All my Friends and Family, I will also Pray for your Husband to turn his life around...

[KristyAnn]

I am with you .and you are doing the right thing for your kids... I lived with an alcoo. dad,
very hard on kids... and you to....so be strong . God will help you....

[Winnie49]

Forza e coraggio lilbinkey, strong and courage!!!!!!
I'm with you too!!!! i'm sending you a lot of positive energy and for a mom you are you have to be more strong!!!! God will help you, He help you want to be helped!!!!
Wendy

[OnieRN]

This is one experience that I hate to admit..... but I know what your going through. I too went through the same thing. My ex husband is also an alcholic. I begged him to get help. Now 8 yrs divorced, I'm doing okay. I too will admit that I loved him dearly and probably always will, but I could not live any longer with all the drunkin episodes. Have you ever considered going for help? Counseling will help you too.

I do pray and I believe that miracles still happen, even if we don't see them clearly.

Just know that you have the best network of friends here at SBM and we spread all over the world! :)

:)nie

[lilbinkey]

Im so thankful for all of your love & support.
It has really helped me a lot.

I went to my family therapist today. I just love her. She is a gods sent.

It was a good session. My kids will be going to her next week. I will keep you all updated..

xoxoxo,
Binkey

[makeyesup]

Sorry that I did not get into this thread before. However, am happy to hear that you have found Alanon and Alateen. And yes, you are in my prayers.

Lived with an Alcoholic Father and Mother and then married one. Mom never made it. She passed away when I was 25 from strokes brought on by her booze illness. Dad later found he could do without; however, only after he got so sick and the doctor told him he was over the crisis. I grew up with fights and Dad beating up on Mom. She was sober during my earlier years and changed when I was in my teens. Always wished that they would separate and the wars would end. In the 40's and 50's, that just wasn't done. Everything was in the closet and help was not easily available. Now, it is and I urge you to go to everything possible for help for you and your children.

Left home and met the man of my dreams - Dad introduced me at the tavern. Should have got the hint there that he also had the illness. He was one of my Dad's fishing buddies. This was after my Mother passed. Married him, had 5 1/2 years of he** and then 5 1/2 years of bliss after he joined AA. It has been 26 years since he passed and it sometimes is difficult to remember my roots and how they molded me. He was married before me and had 2 girls which I am still close to. However, the youngest one also has the problem. She blames her Dad for it, which is so trypical. She has gone through , divorce, losing custody of her 2 girls, DUI's, Dt's and other treatment and still is not ready to admit she has a problem.

However, even though I no longer go to Alanon, I would always recomend it to anyone who lives with Alcoholism. Still get the literature from AA and always support it when I can.

Didn't want to burden you with my story. However, no matter how many times we hear of others, it is still so natural to feel alone with the illness.

Keep up your spirits. The old saying that God never gives us more than we can handle is very true. We just don't know how strong we can be.

[OnieRN]

I have to agree with "MakeEyesUp". I wasn't raised or brought up around alchololism so I was unprepared for what I experienced. I too found a lot of comfort with Allanon. I started going prior to my separation, trying to understand these "beast" that had taken over my marriage. I realized it had been there all along and that I never recognlized it. Allanon gave me the courage to leave. I had hoped that by my leaving, he would understand that I was serious. I did not seek the divorce. I just wanted him to admit he had a problem and get help. During our separation, he hooked up with another lady with a drinking problem and adventually married. I also continued going to Allanon through the divorce and the year following. I wanted all the tools I could get, so I didn't repeat the mistake. For years I found myself counting every beer or drink that others drank in my presences.

You do have friends here and your in our prayers. The one thing to remember is that the problems do not end with a divorce. Continue to seek help for you and your children! Get the tools you need to save yourself and the children.

My prayers,
:)nie

[*eng*]

How are you and your family Binkey.Been wondering how things are going.

[OnieRN]

I was wondering the same thing! Just want you know Blinkey that we're all thinking about you!

[eye]

Yes you are still in our thoughts and prayers.:)

[lilbinkey]

Thanks to all of you!
We are doing OK.. Looking so much forward to Thanksgiving. My lil brother & his girlfriend are coming to town. I cant wait :-)

I dont know what I would have done without all of your thoughts & prayers.

I go to court on Nov. 28, 06. I will keep u all updated.

Thanks Again & God Bless U All,

XOXOXOXOX

[sacannon]

Good Luck Binkey, We will be thinking of you!

[*eng*]

Nice to hear from you Binkey. Glad you have something to look forward to, hope your brother's visit makes you feel better. I'm sure it will. Good luck.

[autisticwonder]

If he does not want help for HIS problem you can only do what is BEST for YOU and the KIDS!! That might be what it takes to get him to get help!! Kids really only have YOU to care for them when Dad loves the drink more than family. It hurts bad right now! You are doing the right thing to reach out for support!! I'll have you in my gentle prayers!! Love sometimes means letting go. Let him stand on his own two feet. If he does go to get help, make sure he is going for the right reasons and not using it to keep you and hurt you continually. He can't see that right now!! He doesn't know your pain...he can only feel his own and it makes him drink even more..gets into bad cycle..LOVE yourself right now!!! Codependency is the spouse who won't let go of the abuser and take care of her self FIRST!! You can control you. ...OK,
enough preachy stuff..You are a very giving and creative person!! Heavenly Father will take care of you if you let him!! Give all this to him and look to your own needs!! About all you can do for him is PRAY!! That you can control.
Want to give you a big long hug and let you cry it out!!! Will the thought count?? GOD BLESS!!! I'm praying for you to do what's best for YOU and the KIDS in the long run!!